WOW! That is so reassuring to me as a mom. When my daughter died before she was born I was comforted to know that even there God was present. When my first child was three weeks late and had to be cut from my womb God was there. When my third child was formed with a curve in his spine and a kidney that malfunctioned, God was there. He knew before they were a twinkle in my eye exactly what and who they would become.
He knew who I would become. He knew what kind of mother I would be before I was ever even thinking about being a mother. God knew.
There are things they don't tell you about being a mom. The sensationalism of being a mom that is often seen in the world through movies, TV, and social media makes being pregnant, delivering and being a mom look beautiful and easy. I would dare to say that is a lie straight from hell. Being a mom is one of the hardest jobs ever. Becoming a mom can be even harder.
In this world we make being a mother something that all women should strive to be. And yet what if you just to want to be a mom. Or if you can't be a mom. If you are single. Being and becoming a mom should not be the end all be all of womanhood.
As women we should be striving to be so much more than a mom. I'm not saying being a mom isn't a high calling but so often we put that on ourselves to fill a void that we don't even know we have. We see and smell cute babies and think that being a mom will provide us with someone to love us unconditionally and to always be there and to be what we weren't and to make us feel needed.
And then that baby grows. And they don't tell you that every change, every struggle that your child faces will make you question everything you ever learned about love. You will wonder how you could love someone so much even when you may not like them or the choices they make. You will wonder how your heart can break over the littlest things over and over again. You will wonder how badly you messed up and how will your child ever reach adulthood. You will wonder what you could have done differently and what you could have done more or better. You will question with your whole heart if you did enough to help them become the best person they can be.
Today I know of women who desperately want to be moms. Women who have lost their moms. Women who have lost their children. Women who aren't married and don't know if they want or will every have kids. Women who don't think they are doing a very good job at this mom thing. Women who are so caught up in being a mom that they forgot who they were.
To all of you women in the world today. Whatever your situation I say Happy Mother's Day. Because it's just a day and being a mom isn't all you are called to be.
God knew - He knew you before you were fully formed. Let Him fill the voids that you have and remember that there is no perfect mom or person. Just a bunch of women doing the best we can with the life that our God formed us to be.
Love to all.
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