Tell me Why

Some day you are going to come to me and tell me you want to marry my child. I've been praying for you and for them to find the person God intends for them to spend the rest of their life with. I've prayed for you to be compassionate and kind and to love them with all of your being. I've prayed the same for your family. That they will love and accept my child as their own. 

Most important of all I've prayed that you will love God more than you love my child. Because I've found that if you love God more than anything then God will teach you how to love my child. 

Love is an action word and there will be days that my child (they aren't perfect you see) will make you work to love them. You will have to get up every day planning to love them in spite of how you feel. 

I want you to know that if you love my child you will be blessed. You will gain a large and loving and often crazy family. I will stand behind them to the end and you will become my child. It's always been that way. Their friends become family when they walk through my door. There are many I love as my children scattered around the world. And when you become part of their lives you become part of mine. I will treat you as I do them. 

When you tell me you want to marry my child I just want to know a couple of things. Do you love God first and will  you help my child to continue to draw close to Him? I think that's pretty straightforward. 

Next I want to know why?  Why do you love my child?  Don't come to me with an easy answer. You'd better be able to explain in great detail what you love about my child and what you like. Do you see their weaknesses? Do you love them enough to not want to change those but push them to their dreams and goals?  Do you see all of them and not just the surface? Do you realize you get the whole family?

When you tell me you love my child and want to marry them tell me why you will love them ninety years from now. Why you will love them when times are hard or times are easy.

You see if you can tell me why then I will see it in how you treat them and how you look at them. Trust me - I am very good at knowing my children and I will know. I will see more than you know and I will be your biggest advocate if you truly love my child. So when you come to me - just tell me Why.